Is Love Conditional?

 Is love conditional?

A question I was battling with for the past 2 years. Is it possible to love someone for who they truly are? Without us in the picture? Or do we actually love them because we see a reflection of what we love in ourselves in them? Tricky right? 

Before I throw my opinion here, it is important to note that we are imperfect (Yet beautiful) human being, we learn, we grow and we evolve. No one is going to show up at your door on a horse, so love yourself enough that someone else's love will only add candles to the cake you already iced. 

"To love someone for who they are" means to see them as individuals, as a whole entity, to perceive their existence, to recognize their dreams, fears, imperfections, how their eyes spark when they talk about something they admire, their body language when they are not comfortable in a certain situation, and to LOVE THEM in all those cases, to love their tenderness as much as their madness. Simple? Yes, Easy? Hell No.

No one is easy to love. we all have traumas that control our unconscious mind, we all have bad days, and dark parts.

It's easy to love someone when things are all rainbows, candies and unicorns, but honey, life is a rollercoaster and it brings the shittiest parts of us almost everyday. 

Love becomes a choice after a while, you choose to stick around when pills are hard to swallow, you choose to stay with your spouse become you see something in them worth fighting for. And you can only realize this, when you truly love them for who they are. 

And if you don't think your spouse is worthy of your battle, then leave, because we all deserve to be seen, heard and understood. 

In my next blog, we will discuss the statement: "Love may very well be unconditional, but I guarantee you relationships are not".