"Love may very well be unconditional, but I guarantee you relationships are not."
Some of you have already been there, stuck between the dilemma of "I love them so much but I can't cope with this anymore", because the hard truth is, relationships, friendships as well are conditioned (Beside respect and honesty because these should be inevitable).
Let's be straightforward with ourselves, no matter how much we love someone for who they are, we choose to be with them because they give us a sense of belonging, a feeling that others couldn't offer us. We won't stick around someone who is pouring misery in our lives (At least that's what a person with a healthy mindset will say).
On the long run, we realize that love, alone, is not enough to keep a relationship alive, small details about your partner will start to irritate you, from being lazy or inattentive to even simpler things like the way they walk or the way they chew their food. Yes as silly as they sound, but they truly can be a source of conflict.
That is why in proper relationships, conditions or what we know as fundamentals are crucial. And we can only agree on them through a healthy communication. it goes like this:
" It bothers me when you chew out loud, it would be nice if you could chew with your mouth closed".
"I feel appreciated when you take out the garbage, It would make me happy if you do it more often".
"I love it when you interact more in gatherings with my friends, is it possible to share more next time?".
You see? these are conditions but when we ask for them in a form of suggestion and not in a form of obligation, and when we use positive words(appreciated, happy, love...) they become easier to swallow.
And if you deeply love your spouse unconditionally, you will be more than delighted to take their suggestion into consideration and work on yourself and on your relationship (See the link I just made between an unconditional love and a conditional relationship?)
To wrap it up, life is short, so if you find someone worth fighting for, grab them and don't ever let them go.
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