Quality time

As I mentioned before, we all have a primary love language (A way we love to be loved by our partner), I will embark today the love language: Quality time.

If your partner always nags about not spending enough time together, or always suggests trips or weekend getaways, romantic dinners... this might be a sign that his/her primary love language is quality time.

By "quality time" I mean giving someone your undivided attention. I don't mean sitting on the couch watching television, because in this case the TV has your attention and not your spouse, and I don't mean going camping and spending 3 hours trying to light the bonfire, because the bonfire has your undivided concentration and not your spouse. 

What I mean is sitting on the couch with the TV off, phones on silent mode, looking at each other and talking, giving each other your undivided attention, means taking a walk just the two of you, without one being faster than the other, going camping and setting the campsite together and actually enjoy each others company.

When I sit on the couch with my spouse and give them thirty minutes of my attention, and they do the same, we are giving  thirty minutes of LIFE, we will never have those thirty minutes again, we are giving our lives for each other. It is a powerful emotional communication of love.

Things you can do to spend time together: 

1. Prepare a sunset dinner, go to your favorite beach, spread your tablecloth and eat your sandwiches
2. Ask your spouse for a list of activities they would enjoy doing with you, make plans to do one of them each week or each month 
3. Call your spouse and say: "I want to make a date with you one evening this week to sit and talk" 
4. Plan a getaway weekend just the two of you, and no you don't have to spend all your money, a tent, a blanket and 2 pillows will be enough. 
5. Have a "let's review our history" evening once every three months and talk about your childhood, fears, dreams, happy moments, your relationship evolution.... 
6. If you're married or you live together and lead a busy life, wake up 15 minutes earlier, cuddle a bit, clothes are optional. 

PS: phones are not allowed. 

If you truly love someone, you would want them to be the happiest with you and at ease. If you feel that this is too much for you, please leave, we all deserve to be seen and loved for who we are.