I recently read a book entitled "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman - author, speaker, counselor and has a passion for helping people last in their relationships. In today's blog I will give you guys a small resume on what the book is about.
Ready? Here we go,
Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, travel desert sands, and without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable and deserts unbearable.
As I already mentioned, no need is more basic than the need to feel love and affection, the need to sense that we are wanted, from here I can say that each and everyone of us has a "love tank" ready to be filled (beside the love that we must give to ourselves), it is at the center of our emotional desire, we needed love before we "fell in love" (as children) and we will need it as long as we live. And it is up to our partner to keep this love tank full.
We all have one primary love language, a way that we love to be loved by our spouse, the book talks about five love languages: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Gifts, Acts of service and Physical touches. Yes we all desire to receive them all but if you dig deep you will realize that you actually have one essential love language that if it's not present your love tank will be empty.
You may ask how? How can I meet my partner's needs? How can I make my partner feel loved? Or you can say "I tried everything in my power to make them feel appreciated but it's not working".
Well, it's simple all you've got to do is ask your spouse what's his or her love language and work on filling their love tank.
Sometimes we feel exhausted with all the effort we put into making a relationship work, but we miss out on the fact that we might be putting our efforts in the wrong places, if your spouse's love language is quality time and all you're doing is throwing gifts at them, you might want to redirect where you're putting all your energy.
In my next blog I will embark on the Love Language: Quality time (obviously because that's my love language).
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